I see you there. Utterly exhausted, worn down, anxious, overwhelmed, irritable or just plain needing a LOOOOONNNG undisturbed break.

Are you surprised at how immensely hard your parenting journey has been?

Does it feel like other Mums do it so much easier than you?

Are you more anxious, flat or angry than you ever were?

Do you feel SO touched out/sensory overloaded by the end of the day (and partners don't even think about touching you at bed time)!

Struggling to manage the mental load and why your partner just doesn't seem to get it?

Resentful that your partner can take a day or moment to themselves, whenever they like?

Can't remember the last time you had some free, cup filling time to yourself, without feeling guilty?

Are you just SO worn down, that exhausted isn't even the right word to describe it?

If that's you, you are definitely not alone.

There are SO MANY other Mums just like you, struggling with the same things.

Parenthood is definitely the hardest and (at times) the most rewarding job you'll do. But you can't have one without the other.

And, you can learn to go easier on yourself, to drop some pressure and feel less alone.

So, I'm here to help you with that..

I'm Sarah Purvey, Mum of 2 strong willed, wonderfully sensitive girls, aged 7 and 9 and wife of 10 years. I am a psychologist of 16 years and owner of Eastern Shore Psychology for 6 years and I wrote my first book, Keep Sane and Parent on in 2019 (available for purchase here)

I use popular psychology therapies like Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (a mindfulness based therapy), Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (based on reframing your unhelpful thinking and negative beliefs) and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (used to help with managing strong emotions and suicidal thinking/behaviours), but mostly Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR - a fascinating therapy for transforming traumas and radically shifting negative beliefs) and Internal Family Systems to help heal trauma and complex PTSD.

I've supported countless Mums over the years, from all walks of life. I have seen the SAME types of issues arising OVER and OVER, in therapy sessions, my online groups and my own social networks. I am also constantly navigating my own motherhood journey, learning about myself and my relationships, while aiming to foster deep connections with my kids. It's not an easy gig.

Parenting doesn't come with a rule book (as you probably realised already). Embracing the messiness and letting go of the high standards we have learned through our lives, is key to nurture our own mental health and our kids too. We have developed standards that we have been conditioned to cultivate, in order function as a "good" family member, colleague, partner, friend or mother, which surround generally pleasing others at all times.

There will always be bumps, obstacles and mountains to climb in our life. Life is no fairy tale, but we can learn to get better at embracing this and enjoy the joyful moments, even when life is challenging.

I guarantee you, I'm still an overwhelmed Mum too, sometimes! And, I have seen countless Mums in my psychology practice, experiencing the issues I've mentioned, just like you.

We’ve been sold a myth that motherhood is only about love, joy and an imperative we must do, to complete us, once we find a long term partner.

Motherhood IS about love, happiness and joy. But few people talk about the messiness, pain, guilt, resentment, challenge and utter exhaustion and relentnessness that will bring you to your knees.

No one tells you that you will experience a depth of all of your emotions, that you never knew to be possible.

To love to your fullest extent, the way you love your children, is to be willing to feel into the depths of your soul.

I want to create a safe space for you to help cope with the harder bits and harness those joyful moments.

I want to show you an easy online option, to ease the overwhelm of motherhood, when you can't get to therapy OR to make a better use of your therapy time

I want to show you that you're not definitely not crazy, selfish, irrational or alone. That countless other Mums are truly experiencing the same things that you are.

I have created an online platform for you to find solace from a Mum and psychologist who gets it, with access to resources to help you feel better about your motherhood journey and start changing your life for you and your family

A place to learn ways you can manage your overwhelming feelings. To normalise whatever your current experience is and find ways to cope with or change it.

Introducing

Your Sanctuary: An Online Space for Exhausted Mums

An online 6 week platform, where you will receive guidance from a psychologist who is a Mum too (did I mention how strong willed my girls are?), with a group of like minded Mums, available as you need it.

We'll do this by...

X6 Weekly recordings (not too long) with a check in, a topic dedicated to motherhood exhaustion and small achievable goal for you to set yourself

Simple psychology strategies and ways to implement them, when it feels like you can't

Access to the two live recordings I made for Mums in the previosu round of the live Your Sanctuary group

MP3s just for you, to help create calm, self compassion, to ease guilt and to help you connect with your values (a key to understanding why things make you tick and what you can to do to improve your life).

Continued access to the live recorded videos and mp3s for the duration of the course lifetime (basically a long time, unless I decide in the years to come that the offers need to fundamentally change)

And as an extra bonus

You'll receive a copy of my book Keep Sane and Parent On, via ebook

By the end of the course you will:

Be regularly addressing the Mum guilt
Managing and understanding your emotions better (like anxiety, anger, sadness, general overwhelm)
Have tips to ease the Mum mental load
Feel more supported and understood
Be more understanding of and be improving your relationships (with significant other, family and friends)
Be more understanding of anxiety, depressed mood and what you can do about it
Be more compassionate with yourself and embrace your ongoing personal growth as a mother

Each week we will cover:

Week 1: Your mental health check in - where's your head at right now and some basic tips to make sure you're prioritising it
Week 2: Why you're probably a perfectionist without realising it and how this contributes to Mum overwhelm/depression/anxiety
Week 3: Anxiety, anger and letting go of control
Week 4: Mum guilt and self compassion
Week 5: Friendships and how they change
Week 6: Communication skills with your partner (or ex/future partner)

What Other Mums Have Said about "Your Sanctuary"

Nicole

"you really have helped me thru a massive HUGE change in my life....thank you so much"

Megan

I have learnt so much. I'm really grateful that we can go back over the learnings as well. Thank you Sarah for all of the effort and time you have put into this.

Cathy

Thanks so much Sarah! I’ve really learnt a lot from this course it’s been useful (especially to know how common some of my feelings are!)"

Your Investment

1 upfront payment of just

$147

for 6 weeks of modules, with achievable weekly strategies, to address Mum guilt, anger, anxiety, your friendships, your relationship, the mental load and your general motherhood overwhelm

Join Me Now

When you sign up - you'll be prompted to make a login - login and make payment. Head over to your email for prompts, once you sign up. You'll receive weekly emails to remind you to complete the modules each week.

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